MY PREGNANCY JOURNEY.

WAS IT WRONG TO BE PREGNANT IN MY EARLY 20S?

Having being brought up in a christian family where the believe of having your focus in studying and not making friends of opposite  sex existed,getting pregnant was not an easy thing to ever think of,worries were ringing in my mind of how i could approach my parents in beaking such a message to them.
 

I believed that getting pregnant was a Gods plan thing,i did not want to give too much worries to it i knew that when your parents kick you off because of such experience then i will stand with God only,i never bothered,and i moved on well with my studies and infact with alot of effort because i knew that the only task remaining for me to do is to study smart.

I learnt that college students mostly female students when realising that they are pregnant,they look for arbotion medicine which is so risky to ones life,this can lead to even death,i perfectly put in mind that every thing will be alright,the fact that the fathers kid accepted the pregnancy then there was nothing to be worried of.

How do you feel arriving late in to the lecture room when all the students have already settled and the lecturer has just began the lesson,then you are there popping into the lecture room with a protruding stomach all of a sudden the students turn to you and might be you were known by most of the students?

The kind of feeling i had was just:why dont you differ your studies and bare your stomach by staying at home? series of questions were criss-crossing my mind,i could not stop my studies just because of being pregnant,this is not a secondary school where pregnant students were not allowed in class,i could comfort myself like am better than those who arbort.

I had to be brave and leave aside the thinking of human beings because i knew that am not living anyones life let them talk about my ways but not to attempt to cross the line,but the most difficult thing i faced was rejection by some of my friends but the faithful ones stayed and helped me in all ways,one thing i learnt is that never undermine a pregnant student and you know that you are a lady because one day you be expectant and you never know the kind of life you will face with the people you will get,you have to know that whatever you are doing bad to your colleague will come back to you, its only a matter of time.
NEEDS OF A PREGNANT STUDENT:Pregnant students faces several challenges such as social stigma,lack of emotional support,poor health care access and stress around the new life adjustments,i found that most of our parents feel like when you get pregnant during your studies,your future is completely damaged and they immediately stop giving you any kind of support not even financial support  of which that is completly not the best thing they should do,a campus student is a grown up lady who can take care of the family if only she gets enough support.

Parents should accept that what their child has done is wrong but they have to continue supporting you,it will be a great loose when they neglect you then you pass some difficult time which might lead to one commiting suicide,no one is perfect to live a life without making mistake they have to understand that they made mistakes someday in their time.

Also some guys tend to deny their child when he finds out that her partner is pregnant,i think such like men have an habit of destroying ones future,they should be responsible and give any necessary support or even if it means to struggle together to ensure that everything is okay,they should be there to encourage and relieve you some stress or even help you with some house chores,such like men who deny their child have an habit of coming back in future to demand their child yet they gave no support in raising the child. The most important thing that the campus students mostly ladies should kno is that,getting pregnant before finishing your studies is very challenging,it is easy to get pregnant but the consequences are really tough,even if your lover is loving you to the maximum,he will not be there to give you everything you need,having your own money will add you some respect from him because he will know you cant lack anything when you need,also men get tired when they find out that he is the provider of everything you need and it is obvious that we do have alot of needs in our daily life so its really better when you have your own source of income.